True love is simple. It is the act of being completely honest with ourselves about the people we love and what we love to do. This past weekend I had a birthday and turned 22 years old! I reflected a bit on how I've changed this past year. In short, I am happier than I've ever been.
For much of my life, I focused on the outcome - specifically, on the future. People described me as ambitious and hard-working. I had big, lofty dreams and I was stressed out each day trying to get there. If anything happened that put me backwards a couple steps, I felt so frustrated. Sure, I had some moments that felt great and were the perfect result I dreamed about. However, I spent the majority of my time stressing out about it.
If we focus intensely on one thing, it becomes our reality. For me, this was the future and my perfect outcome.
I didn't see all of the good that happened day-to-day. and I certainly didn't see any of the unique opportunities presented to me. I established my future in my head and ran towards it at full-force. Anything that grabbed my attention I considered a "distraction," and thought it was holding me back from my dream.
Then, this year, something changed. My mindset switched from the future to the present - and when it did, some amazing things happened.
I couldn't sleep because I was so excited about the next day. This happened every single night, even if I had nothing planned.
I didn't feel the social anxiety when talking to new people. I knew I liked talking and connecting with others, so I went for it and didn't worry about it anymore.
I decided to take my phone off silent so I could hear a text or call coming in, and started responding back. My relationships grew stronger and became more honest.
I loved writing and followed several bloggers, so I decided to start my own blog and write as much as possible.
Instead of spending all my money on organic food, I began buying nicer clothes because I love style and fashion. Even the smallest happiness has power. Don't mistake it for something insignificant! Following what makes us happy and acting on it every day completely changes our reality.
Then we can live, love and enjoy our life!